Why Can’t Men Cook?
Now wait first, before you people attack me — I’m not dragging anybody.
I’m just talking.
And yes, I know that there are amazing men who cook. Proper men that will enter kitchen, season meat, boil rice, and even know how to clean up after. Big shoutout to you — you’re doing well. You’re the exception, not the rule.
Because most times, the rest are just out here moving mad.
Like… why can’t men cook?? No for real, why?
Why is it that girls are raised to know how to fry plantain at 9, but boys are praised for eating it well at 29? 😭
Why are women trained for the kitchen, while the guys are just chilling with TV remotes and vibes?
Like, excuse me sir, do you not also eat?
One guy literally told me that he doesn’t cook because “what’s the point?”
I’m like, huh?
He said when he gets tired of eating out, he’ll just get a girlfriend. Like a whole human being. Like a girlfriend is now small chops.
I said no now. You have YouTube. You have a whole phone. You have hands.
Why is the default plan to “find a woman” instead of learning basic survival?
Another one? My former teacher. Nice man, yes. But this man said his wife must cook three hot meals a day and wash his clothes by hand. I asked him:
“So now that you’re single, who cooks for you?”
He said he eats out.
“Who washes your clothes?”
Laundry guy.
So when you marry, is the woman coming to replace your entire lifestyle or what?
Let’s just be honest for once.
Why is it that some men see a relationship as a solution to all their basic problems? Hunger? Get a girlfriend. Dirty room? Get a girlfriend. Can’t boil water? Get a girlfriend. You’re not dating — you’re hiring.
Let me stop here before I over-rant. 😭
I know I’ve said a lot, but tell me —
– Shouldn’t basic life skills be for everybody?
– Is cooking gendered, or is it just our culture messing with us?
– Girls, how do you feel about being “chosen” for what you can do in the kitchen?
– Guys, be honest — do you cook? Do you feel like you should?
Let’s talk. I actually want to hear what you people think.
~Emma🦋
I have women in my life who hate to cook and men in my life who love it (like my Dad). So while it can be a gender role, I also think it’s like anything else in life…some of us are good at it and some of us aren’t. Growing up, I hated cooking and would have loved to marry a chef. Since I didn’t, I had to learn how to do it myself but it will never be my forte.
Having said all this, I think it’s important to challenge gender defined roles and look closer at what we think we can or can’t do based on how we’ve been socialized. Thanks for writing this!
Every single day, I’m grateful to God for my mum. That woman didn’t joke with raising us right. In our house, everybody cooked no exceptions. It didn’t matter if you were a boy; you’d cook, blend pepper, sweep, mop everything.
And guess what? Now I genuinely love cooking. Whenever I go home, my sisters just relax no stress. I handle the cooking without complaints, because for me, it’s simply normal. It’s how we were raised.